FEAR FACTOR:
AN INSTINCTIVE DESIRE TO PROTECT OUR YOUNG -
AND WHAT TO DO WHEN WE CAN'T
Mothers of all kinds, be it in the animal kingdom or humankind, have this instinctive drive and desire to protect their children.
My father raises cattle on the same farm that his father and grandfather raised cattle on.I cannot tell you how many times I have witnessed a mother cow bawling, stressing out and pacing back and forth when something wasn't right. Either she couldn't find her baby, her baby got stuck in the fence, or was separated from her. Sometimes she could see her baby but couldn't get to it. In any case, mom was very anxious and making a lot of noise! There was one occasion recently that it seemed like mamma cow was beckoning us to come help her! She was looking back at us, bawling, then moving toward her baby and repeated this as if to say, "Come on! I need help! She's over here!" Jam, as we named her because she was stuck in a fence (in a jam so to speak), was all tangled up and mamma cow was highly upset! We eventually got Jam untangled and back safe and sound to her mother.As soon as we did the bawling stopped.
It's a God given instinct to protect one's young. The anxiety military mothers may experience (in my untrained opinion) could partially be related to this intense desire to protect that loved one from harm. It is a mother's job to nurture, care for, and protect the life of that child for 18 years. That's hard to just quit doing. In my own journey I have dealt with fear about two main outcomes of military service: 1. He could be injured or killed or 2. He could at some point suffer from PTSD. And I can do nothing about preventing either! He is my son whom I love deeply. I don't want his mind or his body to experience trauma or injury! It hurts to even think about that. And it brings me to tears when I allow myself to go there. That's part of a mother's heart...I had family members who experienced PTSD symptoms after WWII..I pray for all of those experiencing this.
My son trained well... physically and mentally. But what about others? Are they fully prepared? What about the ones guarding the compound or driving the vehicles? Are they reliable with my son's life? Some mothers may not run these thoughts through their minds, but others will. Some new military mothers will weep just at the thought of their soldier being deployed! It's hard to adjust to.Being concerned for the safety of their child (no matter the age) over a long period of time is a huge monkey on a mom's back.And can get hard to carry. When we went to our son's graduation ceremony all of us as parents were escorted into a "holding room" for a while, waiting to get a glimpse of our soldiers. There was no joy. The air was thick with dread and uncertainty! Every mother had a wrinkle in her brow. You could have heard a pin drop in that room...because many of those graduating were heading to Iraq. Heavy stuff.
That's why Jesus tells us to CAST all our burdens on Him, for He cares for us! That word "cast" means hand over. Give up.The word "burdens" means those things that weigh us down. Heavy loads. Hard to handle. Too much for us to carry alone.The word "care" means loved. Cherished. One on one focus.
Honestly? I don't see how people get through situations like this without Jesus in their lives! He's my "go to" person. My Rock. My Shelter. My Refuge. My Hope. My Deliverer. My All...And God the Father knows our hearts! He loved HIS Son, in whom He was well pleased. And God sent His Son into the world so that the world, through Him, might be saved. (Based on John 3:17) And if I may be bold in saying so, doesn't this relate in a sense to what our sons and daughters are doing? Being sent "into the world so the world through them might be saved (from tyranny, oppression, and terrorism)? God understands our hearts...
Moms, and I include myself in this directive, we need to lay our burdens down at the foot of the cross. Daily. Or maybe many times a day. Or it's going to be a long, bumpy ride. Physical symptoms may express internal anxieties if we don't get a handle on this fear factor. Do we TRUST Jesus enough to trust the lives of our (adult) children in His care? That's a huge question. Reality is, when we are His, our children are given to us to rear, but are His to use in adulthood.
A statement made to me recently by a friend of mine (who is a pastor's wife) nailed it. "I'd rather my children die in the center of God's will than to live outside of it." Amen! I totally agree.
For me? I have that blessed assurance that my son is His.And that he is in the center of God's will. He and his wife pray for God's will in their lives.I have no doubt that a continued Army path is God's will for them. And that's where I need to stop the thought process! And trust the Lord. But at times, I continue with "But...this or that or the other." I'm still working on that part...maybe many of us are. And that's OK. Our Christian walk is something we have to work on every day for the rest of our lives until we see Him face to face. Then we'll know all the answers...
So for today, let's practice laying our burdens down at Jesus' feet and walking away from them. Let's work a little harder at letting Jesus carry this load. And let's trust Him a little more.Trust = Confidence in Him. Even when we may not know all the answers.Are you confident that Jesus can handle this journey?
Psalm 25: 4-5 Show me your ways, O Lord, teach me your paths; guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.
(NIV)
LCain
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